The Solution !

The title does not refer to any particular situation, according to me this is for most of our problems. In spite of the fact that many of the people I know do not feel as strongly as I do, in favour of this, yet I am convinced this is how it can, it has to and it will work out finally.  Given the basic fact that all living beings are made of same building blocks(quarks and leptons at the moment, to be precise) and the amazing diversity in the living world is just on account of evolution of life depending upon the various conditions, there have to be common solutions. Most of the problems, if not all, are created by one species-humans.  First and foremost we have to realise that being the so called(by us) 'most intelligent' species by no means give us the right to  live life as if the entire planet is in existence for us only.  We have created problems not only for ourselves but for other forms of life. We ought to seek the solutions for the issues together. We deal with various issues on a much smaller level in our personal lives. Here I am concerned about the solutions that come from all of us and have implications on a much larger scale.

The incident which again brought this to my mind is the recent attempt to kill Malala Yousafzai, a fourteen year old girl from Pakistan. If some people think that what she was doing(she just did not want to give up her studies !!!)  was a serious threat to their existence or cause, it just means something went seriously wrong somewhere which led to such a skewed judgement and the action that followed.
I have nothing to do as such with either the victim or the people who attacked, I am a third neutral party or am I? Going by usual reaction to such an incident it would be enough for me to sympathise with the girl and criticise the attackers and forget it. I do not think so. If I believe that a problem is not mine as long as it does not hit me directly or indirectly then this is one of the very short sighted attitude to have. It is just a matter of time till I would be caught in the web(of whose strings have come from many such unrelated incidents).

To come back to the point I feel we all should be accountable for what is wrong. Empathy, compassion, understanding, respect for other's life are a few qualities we need in all of us. Poverty, wars, terrorism etc. are few examples of self inflicted wounds by us and the solution has to come from each of us, it might be in a very remote way, something which has no direct bearing on the issue but unless this happens, consider yourself sitting on a ticking bomb and just wait for your turn !!

A beautiful day :)

It is a beautiful day today. One of those days which kind of forces you to show gratitude for whatever you have. I am thankful for what I have and where I am today ! I earnestly wish the nature, the Lord to be this generous, all the time for everyone and everything. Wishing health, happiness and peace everywhere.

Enrich yourself !

I am kind of overwhelmed by the no. of things going on in my head which need to come out ! But something which have been on my mind for many days, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that someone(may be there are others ) has put the thoughts and ideas in a very nice and clear way. I am talking of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, who is an American psychologist and the creator of Nonviolent  Communication(a Google search is highly recommended !). Of course the way Dr. Rosenberg puts it, is a way beyond my capability. I listened to his audio CD's on the same topic. It makes a lot of sense to me. I feel very strongly if we all try to implement what he says(must remark that the things are explained in a very simple way) this world will be a far far better place to live in !!

Evolution has been the way of life on earth. Humans as a species may or may not evolve into a new species(physically)but certainly we are evolving mentally and it is a long way to go.  The more I understand and appreciate the facts about the fundamental building blocks of the universe, more I feel this.
Life on earth is a diverse manifestation of some fundamental laws of science. Every thing in the universe living/nonliving has the same building blocks. I am not saying earth since our planet is a tiny speck in the universe!!! and on top of that humans are ONLY one of the millions of  species that inhabit earth !!  How I wish we all could appreciate this fact ! That would have taken care of large number of problems in our lives.

 May be I am straying away from the point I wanted to make.  So better search for Dr. Rosenberg and enrich your life with the simple methods he offers.

The dark in you !

How to live in peace with the darker side in you? How does one handle self in the time when the dark normally hidden somewhere in you spreads in the head? I am struggling to figure out what exactly is the contribution of the dark part of me and what comes out of habit. Some times I behave in a way that defies not only  common sense but any sense ! Feeling guilty, sad and bad over the self behaviour during such moments is how I end up after the show ! I think my biggest problem  is I do not accept myself as I am and instead expect self to have ten on ten in everything I do, which I do not get as I am a very strict self invigilator :(. It does not look like I am getting any clarity on the issue. Looks like more sessions with paper, pen and self are needed ! 

A quality !

One very important quality to achieve to have a quality life is to be flexible in body and mind but at the same time be able to put your point of view without any emotions but firmly. The point is, it certainly does not help to be stubborn but to be taken granted always by others has nothing positive about it. So dear self learn the way to be polite, calm, but firm at times, when needed.

promises to keep !

1.) temper - keep in check everyday. shall count and write every time I let it go off .
2.)  facebook: login once in a day only that too in the evening.
3.)  exercise: everyday for 30 minutes.
4.) flexibility: to be attained in body and mind.

A lurking thought.

In some way it is related to my earlier post but not exactly what I meant to write. How I feel  when I compare the dimensions of a man or for that matter even the mankind with the universe and the kind of attitude we have as a race is very difficult to describe. I shall be publishing them very soon. But something which has been lurking in my mind now for quite sometime, I am out with that now. This is about the violence shown in movies/TV programs. I feel that it's time that we change our ideas about how the good wins over  bad. The act of justifying the violence in the process of eliminating evil has to go.  The other day when my lil one asked me, (after watching a hollywood movie scene where the hero kills three people and when the heroine tells him that he did wrong ), did n't he do the right thing mamma as they were bad people and is n't it okay to kill bad people ? In spite of knowing the answer very well and clearly I was shocked and puzzled. Because this is not the point of view I want him to have at all ! What is good and bad according to me is a very relative and very much dependent upon a specific situation. Of course we do have good and bad in a broad way  to guide us through the life. But I feel earnestly that we all should change our viewpoint on how to deal with bad.

I shall elaborate my point with an example. A child, of say eight or nine years,  hits another child and hurts him/her badly. How do we deal with it ? Do we punish the child so bad he feels hurt even more?(Now I do realize that I am comparing a child, who does not understand the seriousness of his actions to fully grown ups, but wait till I finish) This act of hurting is a superficial manifestation of something more serious.  Unless this was an accident(we are not talking of that case) and the first child did it with the actual intention of hurting then the problem at hand to be taken care of is Why did he do it? We shall try to find out the reason and try our best to remove the cause along with being patiently telling the child who did it that what he did was wrong and unacceptable. He/ She might get some punishment also but certainly not hurting him/her more.  So why do we handle the same situation in a very different way for grown ups. The only reason I see is as I said as grown ups we are supposed to know the consequences of our actions not only for the person/persons but for ourselves and hence that should be a deterrent to that act. I agree with it. But what if some people and I believe there are 'some' only do not understand it.  Why we have to have harsh punitive methods to drive home the point that violence in an form is not acceptable ?  I see two things there though not unrelated and independent of each other but still two of them 1.) act of punishment 2.) to convey the message. If our aim is only point 2.) then I must say the methods should and can change. Why can't we try here also to look a little deeper with some compassion  and find out the reason  and try to get rid of the circumstances/ reasons that led to it. I understand that real situations are far more complex than this but what we learn in research is when faced with a difficult problem-break it into smaller pieces and handle them.  All that is needed is patience and a positive outlook.  I believe this would work for every situation in life.

too many interruptions, so rest later,  I am not done yet but may be mercy for the moment :)