I wonder

Sometimes I wonder, as a parent, while bringing up our kids we teach them or learn from them. Or may be to put it right this should not be a question at all. It is obviously both ways. We teach them and we learn from them. Many times while trying to give my 'Calvin' a dose of wisdom in simple or complicated way, I feel probably I need it to be implemented in my life first. I feel it is a kind of  having double standards in your life. Preach one thing and practice something else. It is so easy to demand from others to change and an uphill task to bring the change in you. But certainly this way I feel the pressure to bring out that change, much more on myself. Learning is a life long process, right from our birth to death we do learn something or the other in many different ways and from many different sources.
Among the various methods to learn I have come across till now,
I find this one very effective.

The attitude

The attitude to look at the negative aspects in life should be positive.

A very Happy new year to all !

Let the coming year be full of love, hope, peace, health  and endless opportunities for every one :)

The two shows !

Yesterday two things happened which excites me. I attended a India-Pakistan friendship meeting where a group of people had come from Pakistan to our city. I felt happy to be there. If it were not the welcome garlands around their necks no body would have told who is who :). Not that I came to know this fact yesterday but still seeing was very different. In theory they are foreigners for us. But are they really? I could understand the language they spoke, I could not make out the difference between any of them and any of us. I felt like some of my relatives visiting us. I am sure I am not the only one who felt it.  With this feeling in my heart I would not even talk about the so called estranged relationships we share as two nations.  I just pray to my GU(Grand Unified, again a concept I borrow from physics, shall elaborate in some other post) God to let this feeling of love and harmony perpetuate the whole space. Amen !

I shall elaborate the second incident about the great show we had by our political class yesterday in a separate post. 

Mera Bharat Mahaan !(My India is great !!!)

disclaimer: nothing unusual has happened. The things are going on the way they generally go.

• A village head slaps a female teacher in broad day light amid hundred of people, is caught on camera,denies the charges, was arrested after public pressure and released on bail with in two hours.
• The great tamasha going on in the parliament.
• The upcoming UP elections,even in this day and time , is being fought mainly on caste, which caste is on which party's side.

• The big tragedy in AMRI hospital, Calcutta. Something which could have been avoided. But was not because of our great "chalta hai" attitude.

Many more incidents would have happened in various parts of the country.

What is new in all this? nothing. such accidents/incidents have happened, will happen. Government is in deep slumber, our state machinery is jammed, and we the people have short memory. We forget in few days time. This is what I feel is most dangerous. I wish I could do more than feeling the pain, helplessness and writing this piece !!!!!!

Ability to change !

Looks like as far as the ways to reform the world are concerned, we the humans are on the wrong track ! The simple fact dawns upon me like a flash light every time I realise how difficult is to change myself. My failing attempts to get rid of my short temper(the concern at the moment, of course there are few others :)) makes it amply clear to me the idea of bringing positive change in the outer world by telling others to change and how the systems can be reformed if so and so starts working properly. It is far far more easier to pass the judgement to others and comment on their efficiencies rather than bringing a change in yourself.  The only way to contribute as far as I see,  am sure am neither the first one nor shall be the last one on this earth , is reform yourself which is not easy to say the least :(.

Theory of relativity in human life.

The concept of Einstein's theory of relativity is very much applicable to our life also. Am putting the postulates

• Nothing is absolute. Everything is relative.

• There is always a frame of reference to look at anything and everything, which makes things/events look different to different observers. 

Unlike in physics  the relations/equations relating these different frames are neither so simple nor they have only four (three space and one time) coordinates to relate. This is where the situation becomes complex. On top of that the inertia to change, the inflexibility of mind and narrow approach to the problem makes it almost impossible to look at the issue from some other frame of reference/point of view. But still there are certain parameters which impact all the situations/events and  which can ease any situation/event. I list a few of them.

• The attitude with which we look at a problem, should be given only positive values. Higher it is better will be the outcome.
• Emotions and Fears, two parameters which generally take high values, should be kept in check.